Sometimes, others don’t love, trust or believe in us. Sometimes we don’t love, trust or believe in ourselves. However, there are good reasons why we should love, trust, and believe in ourselves! Have you ever heard anyone say (Gerald Jampolsky for one): “wherever you go there you are”? We may not like the self we are in the moment but how can we not love the fact that, wherever we go, there we are? Isn’t that something to love, trust and believe in?
Also, isn’t it true that we treat the people and things we love better than the people and things we don’t love? So, why shouldn’t we love ourselves for that reason alone? When we love, trust and believe in ourselves, we tend to love, trust and believe in others. And if we love, trust and believe in others, won’t that show in our behavior toward them? If love and trust show in our behavior towards others, won’t it affect the way others treat us and themselves, if not instantly, over time?
We live in a world dominated by a belief in good and evil. To control each other, we’ve created an external value system that defines behavior as right or wrong, good or bad. Behavior judged to be “bad” or “wrong” is discouraged by the fear of guilt and the promise of punishment. It is a system of ideas that takes power away from us. It does not love, trust or believe in us, which is a reflection of our collective beliefs. To change our beliefs, it’s up us to question and challenge them.
To be happy and successful in life, shouldn’t we look for, and build on, the good in ourselves and others, not the bad? The suggestions below address constructive ways to think about ourselves and others, ways that help us lead healthier and happier lives. By practicing the fulfillment of our ideals every day, we make them part of who we are.
The Use of Ritual Behavior in Change
Ritual behavior can be important in creating change because it adds physical activity to thoughts. The next four statements are an important part of a ritual I practice to bring about desirable change in me. Modelled after the Catholic Sign of the Cross, all I’ve done is change the words and intent. Instead of training us to worship and empower others, a pattern of hierarchical belief and behavior we see reflected in most social institutions, it places everyone and everything inside the Sacred Circle. Will it change the way we see each other? Will it change the way we treat each other? It works for me because I know, above all things, I want to love and be loved unconditionally. What do you want? Create your own rituals. We’re free to think for ourselves and do whatever we want, as long as it doesn’t harm or infringe on the rights of others.
- I love you (“you” can be anyone or anything, in any situation you want to imagine).
- I Love me.
- I love our relationship.
- I love All That Is.
See and feel your ideals in your imagination. Do they make sense? Do they resonate with your deepest sense of self? If they do, think about them often. Make them a part of who you are. Below is a list of values/ideals that resonate with my deepest self.
I love myself, because I am.
I love myself, because I can.
I trust myself, because I am.
I trust myself, because I can.
I believe in myself, because I am.
I believe in myself, because I can.
I love you, because you are.
I love you, because I can.
I trust you, because you are.
I trust you because I can.
I believe in you, because you are.
I believe in you, because I can.
As we think, we create. Change what we think, and we change what we create. We’re all free to believe whatever we want. Isn’t it time to stop believing we’re evil and that we deserve to be punished? We all do the best we can with what we know. When we understand more, we do better! Why don’t we stop playing the I’m right, you’re wrong; I’m good, you’re bad; I win, you lose game? We’re all different and have something unique to offer the world.
Here are some other ideas to ponder and discuss:
LIVE for the love of Being and Creation, not the fear of suffering and death.
Live by value fulfillment and practice idealism. In other words, determine the qualities of being and creation you value most, your ideals, and actualize them to the best of your ability.
Live a Project-Centered life with self-improvement and natural passion at the center. Automatically change yourself, and the world, for the better.
Be who you love to be and do what you love to do. Connect with your soul and stimulate your natural passion.
We are a works of art in progress, honor us!
Remember how good we are, how much we do and how well we do it.
“Nothing you can ever think, say or do can keep you from being loved, unconditionally.” – The Voice of Unconditional Love
What can be more exciting, or worth doing, than changing ourselves, and the world, for the better?
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having (creating) a human experience.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
“How you define yourself and the world around you, forms your intent, which, in turn, forms your reality.” – Seth
In other words, we create our reality from what we believe about ourselves, and the world around us.
If we do not consciously choose our beliefs, we unconsciously absorb them from our surroundings.
If our beliefs, attitudes, values and expectations create our reality, can we afford not to question them?
The more we love, understand and appreciate ourselves, the better we treat ourselves, and the world.
Blessings of love and understanding be to us all!
The secrets of the universe lie hidden in the shadows of your experience. Look for them!